Transformation

The Blue Morpho butterfly is the image on the cover of my book. It symbolizes transformation. Transformation in the world happens when people are healed and start investing in other people. My book involves personal transformation. It describes how my own journey within changed me. In turn, the stories of struggle and courage in my book hold the promise of transformation for the reader in his/her own life.

Try Something New

I wrote this book to demonstrate to other seniors that it is never too late to try something new.  What makes you feel vital? What makes you feel alive? I was ready to discover that for myself. That became my goal. At age 74, when I started the book, I was in the process of building the next chapter of my life. Having been married for 54 years, when my husband passed away, I realized my world was changing. I needed to pursue things that would make me feel alive.

I wrote this book to demonstrate to other seniors that it is never too late to try something new.  What makes you feel vital? What makes you feel alive? I was ready to discover that for myself. That became my goal. At age 74, when I started the book, I was in the process of building the next chapter of my life. Having been married for 54 years, when my husband passed away, I realized my world was changing. I needed to pursue things that would make me feel alive.

Making New Relationships

My book project started out to be one thing and quickly became something else. The experience that shaped me started when I embarked on a new relationship with Will a few years after my husband passed away. Will was a successful businessman, but had started out as a writer himself early in his career as a broadcast journalist. He was the writer. I never thought of myself that way although I had been a teacher of writing. My identity was teacher, a career that spanned 35 years. So Will suggested lightheartedly that it would be fun for us to informally interview our single friends as to what qualities attracted them when out with a person of the opposite sex. I thought he would be the one to lead the charge. That didn’t happen. Will is my mentor and friend. He serves as editor and encourager, but he always intended for me to write this book. So off I went albeit with his constant support.

You are not Alone

My life experience and 50 interviews of people who have suffered loss qualify me to write this book. After the loss of my husband, I was looking for more. I was under the mistaken impression that a new relationship might fill that void. I quickly learned from the first person I interviewed it doesn’t work that way. You have to learn to be whole on your own. The Journey Within: Living After Loss became my destination. While following the lessons stories of relationships offered during the interviews, it became clear to me that this journey should not be avoided if wholeness is your goal. I have come to regard pain and difficulty as a gift. My chances of a successful, long-term relationship are greater now than when I was looking to the relationship to fill a void. Going within is the first rule of healing after loss. Leaning on my spiritual strength, I am learning to be whole on my own. One of my goals was authenticity. Some of the respondents were brutally honest with articulating their loss experience. After 50 interviews, I am ready to share this wisdom. I have much more to give, much more to experience.

My life experience and 50 interviews of people who have suffered loss qualify me to write this book. After the loss of my husband, I was looking for more. I was under the mistaken impression that a new relationship might fill that void. I quickly learned from the first person I interviewed it doesn’t work that way. You have to learn to be whole on your own. The Journey Within: Living After Loss became my destination. While following the lessons stories of relationships offered during the interviews, it became clear to me that this journey should not be avoided if wholeness is your goal. I have come to regard pain and difficulty as a gift. My chances of a successful, long-term relationship are greater now than when I was looking to the relationship to fill a void. Going within is the first rule of healing after loss. Leaning on my spiritual strength, I am learning to be whole on my own. One of my goals was authenticity. Some of the respondents were brutally honest with articulating their loss experience. After 50 interviews, I am ready to share this wisdom. I have much more to give, much more to experience.

What will you gain from reading The Journey Within?

The three words I would use to describe the content of this book are relationship, loss and transformation.

Takeaways that the reader will walk away with include understanding the complexity of loss, support for the journey through grief, understanding that others have experienced similar journeys, gaining a new sense of self, inspiration to pursue what makes one feel vital and alive, and the universality of struggle.

A solution offered by my book involves a turning point. When the reader has experienced loss, s/he may be looking for amelioration of that loss. In The Journey Within: Living After Loss, professionals and the interviewees themselves describe the value of what they have learned subsequently about life and relationship.

Divorce or the death of a partner begins a process of grief and loss. The feelings and experiences that emerge are unique to each individual, according to the nature of the relationship. Reading of the experiences of others can help the healing process.

The promise of the book is hope. It is woven into the fabric of the stories. There is reason to be optimistic.

Divorce or the death of a partner begins a process of grief and loss. The feelings and experiences that emerge are unique to each individual, according to the nature of the relationship. Reading of the experiences of others can help the healing process.

The promise of the book is hope. It is woven into the fabric of the stories. There is reason to be optimistic.